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Feeling Pushed to My Limit While the Snow Keeps Falling
As predicted in yesterday’s post, When Stress Comes From Every Direction and You’re Still Standing, I woke up feeling pushed to my limit. Round two of the texting drama started. Apparently my partner committed two unforgivable offenses: Let’s start with the obvious. The man works from 4 pm until 6 or sometimes 7 am, Monday through Friday. He works nights. He comes home when most people are making coffee. Of course he sleeps during the day. The expectation that he should be awake and available to respond instantly to texts is unrealistic. Second, we are not setting up auto deposits into a bank account we have no access to. We…
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When Stress Comes From Every Direction and You’re Still Standing
Yesterday was okay-ish. Not good. Not terrible. Just… okay-ish. The kind of day where nothing explodes, but nothing feels calm either. The kind of day where you realize when stress comes from every direction, even small things feel amplified. We got one full day without his mom popping up, criticizing, or demanding anything. That peace lasted exactly 24 hours. The Text Message Drama That Wasn’t My Fault Apparently my partner had asked his mom to borrow $30. Instead of just handling that conversation with him, she texted me about it. Then she told me not to tell him she had said anything to me. That alone was enough to make…
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Setting Boundaries With Family When Your Not a Child
I knew this was coming. Back in my January 7th post, Trying to Stay Calm While Everything is on the Line, I said I had a feeling this would turn into an issue of setting boundaries with family. I said if we got the place, my partner’s mom would still try to control how we show up, how we live, and how we handle things. Welp. I was right. She showed up yesterday. She texted from the parking lot, which gave me exactly zero time to mentally prepare. Not that anything needed to be done. I’ve been unpacking and cleaning nonstop since we moved in. The house is fine. We…
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Trying to Stay Calm While Everything Is on the Line
Welp. Today is the day. The day we finally get to tour the place we applied for and meet the guy who owns it. I woke up already tense, because trying to stay calm while everything is on the line feels nearly impossible right now. Of course, it can’t just be a simple “show up and be ourselves” situation. My partner’s mom has turned it into a whole production. She’s telling us how to dress, what to wear, making my partner shave his beard, all of it. Like we’re auditioning for something instead of just trying to find a place to live. Then came the part that really set me…
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Holding It Together in Uncertainty
Trying to Hold It Together While Everything Is Uncertain Right now, everything feels like it’s hanging in the balance, and I’m doing my best at holding it together in uncertainty. As of yesterday, we still hadn’t heard back about the place we’ve been waiting on. Today, that finally shifted, sort of. The landlord got back to my partner’s mom yesterday afternoon and said he wants to meet us tomorrow so we can tour the place and he can meet us in person before making a final decision. So we’re not approved. We’re not denied. We’re just… waiting again. At least this time there’s a plan attached to the waiting, but…
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